relationship counselling in vancouver, bc

Most couples don’t fight about the thing they think they’re fighting about. It’s the deeper stuff underneath - the panic of feeling unheard, the fear of being too much, the sting of feeling unwanted, the part of you that shuts down before you can get hurt.

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With EFT, we map out the cycle you get stuck in: who reaches, who retreats, who gets tight in their chest, who goes numb. It’s not about blame - it’s about understanding the emotional logic of your pattern so you can actually find each other again.

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We weave in IFS and parts work to help each partner notice what’s happening inside when the cycle hits. The defensive part. The overwhelmed part. The tender part that still wants closeness. When you can name what’s happening instead of reacting from it, everything shifts.

Together, we slow things way down so you can talk from the real place — not the protective armor. That’s where connection rebuilds.

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This work can support:

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• the same argument on repeat

• feeling alone in the relationship

• anxious/avoidant dynamics

• shutdowns, escalations, or mixed signals

• trust wounds

• wanting closeness but not knowing how to get there

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The goal: helping you understand your cycle so you can choose each other differently.